a place to begin

Questions to ask your grandparents

We are in a unique time where seven generations can be alive at the same time. These prompts are designed to help one of those conversations begin - gently, honestly and without performance.

Seven generations from Gen Alpha to the Greatest Generation

"The best questions are the ones we are brave enough to ask - and patient enough to hear the answer to."

From the Questions We Carry project

Where they began

Every life starts with a world we can only visit through memory.

  • What is your earliest memory?
  • What was the house or street like where you grew up?
  • Who was the first person to make you feel truly understood?
  • What did you used to do on slow afternoons?
  • What smell or sound instantly takes you back to being young?
  • Did you have a nickname? How did you get it?

Love, family and belonging

The people we come from shape the people we become.

  • How did you meet the person you fell in love with?
  • What did your parents do that you still carry with you?
  • Who in the family was most like you?
  • What tradition mattered most in your home?
  • What did family feel like when you were small?
  • What do you wish you had asked your own grandparents?

Hard times and resilience

Strength is often quiet. These questions make room for it.

  • What was the hardest thing you ever had to get through?
  • When did you realise you were stronger than you thought?
  • What did you learn from a mistake you still think about?
  • Who showed up for you when you needed it most?
  • What did you have to let go of to keep going?
  • What would you tell your younger self on a difficult day?

Work, purpose and identity

A life is more than a job title. Ask about what gave it meaning.

  • What was your first job?
  • What did you want to be when you were my age?
  • When did you feel most useful?
  • What skill are you glad you learned, even if it seemed small?
  • What did success mean to you then - and what does it mean now?
  • What part of yourself did you keep hidden from the world?

The world as it was

History is not only in books. Some of it lives in the kitchen, the train station, the front porch.

  • What was everyday life like before the internet?
  • What did people do for fun in your town or village?
  • What has changed for the better since you were young?
  • What has changed that you still miss?
  • What was a ordinary day like when you were my age?
  • What object from back then would surprise young people today?

Wisdom and hopes

The future is shaped by what the oldest and youngest imagine together.

  • What do you know now that you wish you had known at twenty?
  • What are you most proud of?
  • What gives you hope when you look at young people today?
  • What do you hope the world remembers about your generation?
  • What is one piece of advice you would give, but only if asked?
  • What question do you wish someone would ask you?

Light and laughter

Not every conversation has to be heavy. Joy is a kind of wisdom too.

  • What was your favourite song when you were young?
  • What is the silliest thing you ever did?
  • Did you ever get in trouble? What for?
  • What food instantly makes you happy?
  • What is a story you love telling but never get the chance to?
  • If you could be young for one day, what would you do?
keep the conversation going

What question are you carrying?

The album Questions We Carry was built from real questions just like these. If a conversation sparks something you do not want to forget, send it to us.

A few tips before you begin

Let silence sit

Some answers need time to surface. Do not rush to fill the quiet.

Ask one thing at a time

A single, open question usually opens more doors than a list of them.

Follow the thread

If a detail makes you curious, ask more about it. That is where the real story lives.

Record only with permission

Memory is intimate. Ask before recording, and let them change their mind.

Share your own answers too

Conversations go both ways. A question becomes an exchange when you answer it as well.

Return to it

One afternoon is rarely enough. The best stories come out over many cups of tea.